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Links, blogs, readings, and other material of interest.

Cat Behavior Solutions

You knew there’s be a cat resource, didn’t you? My friend Molly DeVoss is a certified feline training and behavior specialist (with many more credentials) who is dedicated to keeping cats out of shelters for behavioral issues. Her podcasts — nearly 175! — cover a variety of topics from litter-box issues to helping fearful cats. I have learned so much from Molly.

Grief.com

David Kessler’s website. He is one of the most respected voices in the arena of grief and grief processing. His site includes so many resources, from books to grief groups.

Monroe Institute

Monroe Institute website. The organization was founded by the late broadcast magnate, Robert Monroe, one of the first people to report on contemporary out-of-body travel after he found himself spontaneously going out of body in the mid-1960s. The institute continues research in consciousness and offers workshops for expanding consciousness

Suzanne Giesemann

Website for the evidentiary medium and spiritual teacher who has helped me answer questions about what happens when we die. She is recognized on Watkins Mind Body Spirit magazine’s 2022 list of the 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People. I just call her the real deal.

Sample Excerpt from My Dead True Love: On the brink of going out of body

“Hello, and welcome to our lab,” Dr. Koslow said, radiating confidence and pride.

“Let me walk you through what will happen. You and I will go into the chamber and get comfortably seated in the two chairs. Adrian will hook us up to the monitors and, as we go through the synchronized-sound sequence, he’ll use the monitors to track everything that’s happening to our physical bodies. Physiologically, it will resemble sleep. But it’s not. Also, I can assure you that you will be in good hands. He and I have both done this many times.”

I wanted to believe him, and again I had the impression of a calm, steady pilot. But no matter what he said I still had that chattering sensation in my teeth and felt as if tremors were going off in my body.

I worried: Could I overcome my fears and do this? Or would I completely wash out? Would I get “out,” only to be unable to get back in? Connie had spent hours preparing me for this, showing me how to focus on my breathing and quiet my monkey mind, but… I still felt so utterly unprepared. And my questions persisted: How would I know Gregory? What would he look like? Would he see me? Could we touch? What if I didn’t want to leave?

Connie moved close to me and slid her arm through mine.

“I know you’re still scared,” she said. “Just trust the process and do the best you can.”

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Sample Excerpt My Dead True Love: Ann’s first moments of grief

“How can you be here one minute and not the next?” I cried out silently.

It happens. Just happens.

Only nights before, we’d slept together in this bed, entwined like grapevines. Skin to moist skin after making love. With my hand resting on his chest, I’d felt his heart beating. Oh sweet, excruciating memory. My mind flashed on the movie where a grieving Superman rolls back time by flying around the earth so fast he reverses events and Lois Lane comes back to life. I wanted that. Wanted to do that. Desperately. I understood Superman’s anguish.

To never see Gregory alive again. Never touch him or be touched by him. Never engage in our repartee. Share our private jokes and knowing glances. Never see him burst through the door. Never smell grill smoke in his hair. Never get called away from tossing a salad to come quick and see a sunset. Never feel our nakedness beneath the covers. “Never” is the mantra of grief: Never. Never. Never. Never. Never.